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 I got COVID!!


Ya, betul! This is my experience.

I'm gonna go back to when I started feeling paranoid, and not when the actual symptoms set in haha
It's 10th May, the day AFTER MY BIRTHDAY. We got informed someone from the main contractor's side got covid, and some of my colleagues joined some site walk and meeting that the guy attended too. So those two colleagues are considered close contact and ordered to stay quarantined, and get swabbed again on the 12th, day before Raya.

The whole office has to get swabbed on boss's orders. I decide to get swabbed separately cos I don't wanna go to the company's regular doctor all the way at Desa Park. So I get swabbed on 12th, day before Raya.

I ended up being negative but I didn't really feel good emotionally or mentally cos on the 15th I woke up to a news article on Facebook saying a neighbourhood grocer got case (6 staff members tested positive), and my parents revealed they were there on the 8th. We all develop (probably) psychological induced itchy throats hahahaha


I go to work as usual after Raya, but I still didn't feel good cos case numbers were rising every day and whO knows who's positive and who's not and I STILL have to go office and it means CROWDED MRT everyday and figuring out lunch, etc, etc. I go to office until 24th May, cos my boss started getting messages saying the government does office spot checks and orders non-site team to stay at home.

THANK U LORD cos we all know the project manager ain't gonna be letting us work from home if he has to get his butt to the office everyday hehe THANK U.

26th May was Wesak Day and that's when I started feeling cold. It's a strange experience to me cos I'm usually quite sensitive to heat so if anything, I would be sweating lol but it felt like my legs weren't getting any blood or something, until I even had to tuck my toes under the cushions to feel normal lol begin my onset of more paranoia.

I start checking my temperature, which made my mother (who also developed paranoia) check my temperature obsessively. My temperature was slightly above average, I hit an average temperature of 37.3 degrees. The rest of the family didn't go above 37 degrees lol but this didn't freak me out AS much cos I know my body temperature usually runs on the high side - I attribute this to my innate gan-jeongness and dehydration.

I only decided to go get tested on 28th May cos my mother wouldn't stop checking my temperature and freak me out so I booked a morning test on 29th. We were pretty confident I would be negative cos my "fever" went away and I didn't feel anything else aside from an itchy throat (something that stuck with me since December 2020, my first close contact experience lol).

30th May (Sunday) passed and nobody called me yet. To be on the safe side, I kept to one corner of the living room and during meals I called first dibs and didn't double dip. 

31st May (Monday) comes and I text the clinic in the morning to ask for my results


I tested positive. 

My CT value were all >20 so I guess I was around the center of the healing curve, leaning towards recovery. All the same, I freaked out and told my office admin, my boss and my friends. Sent my family to BP for swab test to be sure.

 I was feeling pretty sure that they wouldn't be spared from this and I was asking myself where I could've gotten it and I can't believe this is happening why me why now but at the same time I sorta had a feeling I would've gotten it sooner or later lol when I was busy trying to get the vaccine appointment, a voice in my subconscious was like "you're gonna get covid and your appointment will be fucked" so I wasn't thAT disappointed I didn't get it lol
I digress. My parents weren't feeling tip-top cos my mother was complaining about her throat and my dad was coughing more than usual. So I got really really scared I could've caused them this disaster.

But thank the forces of the universe, they all tested negative!!
I then settled into my condition of self isolation and waited for KKM to call me - which they didn't lol I ended up contacting PKD Cheras instead and they got things arranged pretty quick!



So in the end:

  1. I have no idea where I got it from, cos my work colleagues and family tested negative. Likely I got it from the MRT, despite me being careful enough and wearing my mask properly, washing hands, not touching anything lol. The crazy part of me suspects its that spoon from Go Noodles I didn't wash before using but do you get covid from digestion??? Probably not lol
  2. I did not get a gelang. 
    My family did though?? They went today ostensibly to get their second swab but ended up with a pink wristband and new confusion LOL my mom says it was really confusing and crowded there and every body was up in arms, so they couldn't ask anything, just go with the flow.
    By right if their results were out by 31st, 10 days would be on 9th June. Today is the 7th day.
    I Whatsapped PKD about it and the guy said it's weird but to wait for the results. He was like "nanti lepas 3 hari kalau takda orang call, you call balik PKD cheras and tanya result. Kalau negative, bagitau mereka first swab dkt private on 31st, second swab dkt Cheras, then tanya bila boleh potong gelang"
    Although I had no proof whatsover of this phone call, I trust him lol
  3. My discharge appointment is tomorrow!
    I hope it's a discharge!!! I want freedom to roam the fridge again lol
  4. I worked every day during quarantine cos my boss said I "had nothing else to do anyway" lol eventhough I felt fine and fit for work, I still feel a bit pissed at this lol no sensitivity at all
  5. Yes I feel some side effects, ie: when I lie down or when I feel hungry, it gets slightly difficult to breathe. Like your lungs can't get all the air you're breathing in, or you're wearing a really tight bra.

Hope all is well! Fingers crossed their results are negative!
还我自由!身体健康!
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So I've been in this new job for ~2 months now. It's a Chinese company.

So far, my back and neck are dying cos the chairs aren't adjustable so I slouch. For some reason there's no drawers on my desk, so everything I own is on the table top or the stool next to me. I'm not bringing my full desk set yet cos we expect to be moving offices soon, but not sure when lol 

I'll say in comparison to my old place, this place certainly fares better in teamwork and team spirit. But I suppose that's difficult to achieve in a larger company like my last one, where there's literally no time to appreciate every single person.

I wonder sometimes if I made the wrong decision doing this. I sort of miss talking to more people, being more on the move. I now walk an average of 6000 steps a day, in contrast to the 10k I was managing last time. I also miss looking at more packages, rather than just one that I am now. 

Also, they sort of hinted today that I don't really OT.

I was also the butt of the OT jokes back at the old place, where people say my life is good cos I don't OT much lol it sorta sucks cos I know I'm doing my work, and I think I didn't suck at it, considering how they still sometimes call me in to ask stuff lol 

But I think maybe it does mean I don't actually have that much to do lol but when I really think about it, I still don't see what else I could do that would warrant OT-ing every day lol 

I call this toxic work culture. 

Not that everyone who works overtime are bullshitting their bosses; but it doesn't mean people who don't, have it easy at work. Perhaps we're just faster at our jobs lol 


Maybe I need to start advertising how absolutely ~tired I am.


Seriously though, I've seen a lot of people who work really hard when they don't actually have to lol 


I also really need a chiropractor my neck is dying

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Allow me to be self centered for my own blog.

The world truly will not let me rest.
June: boss leaves Malaysia promising me a spot in the podium project.

August: my colleague who is scheduled to leave for the podium project is informed to stay longer in this project longer - of which she promptly lost the spot for said project cos they can't afford to wait.
We call our old boss (he went back to Korea) and I find out my spot has been taken too.
Essentially - I will have no job after this project.

September: While I seethe over the fuckery of August, project manager tells me I'm gonna be included in the org chart for this upcoming project.

October: due to the covid situation, we find out the prospective client cannot finance the new project. Boss tells me my contract will be due end December, while he tries to find me a spot in other ongoing projects.
No news.
Job seeking commences.

November: I get my contract termination letter. Job seeking continues. Boss informs Project A will contact me soon. 
Advertise my contract termination to whoever will listen - gets offer from subcon. Terms are nice.
Went for an interview somewhere else but the terms were meh.
Gets contacted by Project A.
The above all occured within 2 weeks. I am mentally and emotionally exhausted.

December: COVID SCARE that delays all my plans for 2 weeks. Signs offer from subcon during quarantine cos it's not like I have anything else more attractive lined up. 
Goes back to work and tells boss my leave plans. Confirms I will not sign any extension cos I already got an offer somewhere else.
Spends some time in bliss cos the Koreans can't believe I didn't wait for them (sometimes I feel like contracts really are nothing to them lol I can't spend my time in agonizing wait forever)

Now I'm stressed out because:
  1. Covid numbers are rising and therefore it is literally not safe anywhere anymore. I used to be more passive about contracting the disease in the beginning, but after some rational thought reading some tweets, I realize I really don't want my parents to die from this.
  2. If the rumours are true and MCO really is announced next week, it will definitely go longer than 2 weeks. Will I even get paid in February??? They told me it's ok but will it really????? 
  3. Am I even making the right choices?? 
    - If I stayed in my current company, I might have a more stable income. But the future is unclear. They keep saying the prospective project will be signed soon but with the pandemic going on in the background and the finicky client...nothing can be said with what will happen. 
    - If I join the subcon....I will be a subcon lol but their offer is currently higher than what my current place can offer me. And I'll be able to learn stuff from a close knit team.
    But I also have a feeling they're hiring me to be a glorified clerk (ie being a translator)
    Also, these people keep going out!! The project director is meeting his penang friends as we speak!! Penang numbers are no joke too!!!!???? What if there's no MCO and I join them and  (god forbid oMG) then I get another covid scare???????????
  4. This is really vain but my skin condition has been so terrible lately I have 0 confidence when going out now haha even with the mask on I feel disgusting. 
    When I take it off to eat, I feel like everyone's judging me.
  5. I'm a horrible person?? I don't know why I'm like this. Why am I such a bitch sometimes I don't get it. Why do I hate everything? How do I stop?
  6. My period is late?? I'm bloated af everyday now and I haven't been able to wake up at all (I keep sleeping over the noise of my alarm??? This never happens consecutively????)

What is going on? 
When will it end?

I just want the world to fast forward to when it's ok to breathe again.
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 CONTEXT:

It was 4pm, I was at client's office with my teammate and bosses. The consultant walks in, the bosses get a text and tells us they have to go back immediately. I get 50% curious but mostly annoyed. 

10 minutes later, my other colleague at site office texts me saying "shit the office boy tested positive we're doomed"

2 minutes later, client swings in and says "uh...I think this has to be postponed. I just got informed there's a positive case in site"

An hour later we were all sent to Prince Court to get ourselves tested. Thus my 2 hour long panic begins -

where do I go?? Do I go home?? my parents are old?? 

My mother rationalized and says if I am positive, I would've been positive before this day and I should just go home - a rationale I ignored cos I'm dumb.

My colleague (S) instead offers me a room to stay for the night while we wait for our results, which I take cos  my head was still hot from the hysteria.

My results came out negative the next day @ 4pm. I thank my colleague and go home relieved - we're saved! My parents aren't gonna die in Sungai Buloh! 

Went home and took a full body shower, before sitting down for dinner discussing the day's events.

8pm: S calls, crying, and tells me she's tested positive.


AND SO:

The ensuing panic of preparing the front room for me to stay in, while I whimper in a corner, confirming the world truly cannot let me rest without having some sort of reason to be anxious.

I spend the next few days micro-analyzing my interaction with her in that one day. I didn't really spend a lot of time with her prior due to personal reasons, so it could only be:

a) the one lunch (since literally almost two months) that same day with our ex-subcon, or 

b) the juice she made and insisted I drink (I really, really don't quite enjoy juice like this haha)

The crippling anxiety that I could've infected my family too through dinner renders me useless and I lose my appetite for two days. I can't lie down or do anything without the pang of paranoia slapping me across the face - my chest hurts, my throat itches, my body feels hot.

I open instagram and a lot of the friends I follow are out, having good food. I look out my window and the sun is setting. It hits me that life moves on, whether I die or not. I realize that even if I die today, the world truly isn't that affected - the sun still rises, the clouds still move, people still go to work.

I open Youtube/Netflix to watch shows and I am nostalgic over safer times, when we could touch stuff outside and not get paranoid over being infected by a disease (realistically the risk is still there but not as high).

Spammed multiple friend groups (or to anybody who would listen and not judge) with anxiety stickers praying I test negative. I received mostly lukewarm responses of "it'll be okays". Verinia stopped replying at one point cos she got tired of it hahahaha (what kind of friend....)

Cheryl was more empathetic cos she freaks out over shit like this too like me haha *cries*

AFTERMATH:

I tested negative today!

I don't have a fever!

My throat still itches but it's okay! I'm negative!

Suddenly, covid seems like lightyears away from us! I feel immune! I can fly!

Okay let's continue on. I have emails to reply and work starts next week.

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Wow the last I posted was 6 months ago 

Thinking back at how I used to post something every single day, makes me feel so old haha 

don't blog as much anymore cos I just unload my feelings on Whatsapp 

And cos I have so much rage within me (see note: my spirit is a 60 y/o uncle ala Ove from A Man Called Ove), I tend to split it between 4-5 groups...but I can tell people are getting tired of it haha case in point, Verinia told me to get a life and stop dwelling on things so much

Not gonna lie, it hurt a little, but I totally understand why people would feel this way hahaha I know how it feels being on the receiving end of constant nagging about ~annoying things

I wish I had a larger threshold for people's "quirks" (usually it's general idiocy/ laziness) 

I make myself feel better by saying it means I have a more boss attitude for life (shut up), but really I probably just really do need a life.


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Been having drops in my mood recently (usually occurring around my period...) cos all I feel is varying amounts of empty inside. I guess this is what those sad poetry mean when they say you're just a shell - all hollow inside.

I don't know what I'm doing here. Every day I wake up, go to work and then go home. There is literally nothing I can do, or dare to do, cos of the whole covid situation. 

I mean, I can't blame my lack of life on covid, but it certainly isn't helping!!! I'm already anti-social! I'm already cripplingly awkward around people! Ugh


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This morning I went to the sky garden one level down from the site office to menikmati air segar but there were workers lurking around so I felt awkward (workers tend to stare a lot lol it's quite creepy) so I just walked around and U turned back. 

In the short 5 minutes walking, my eyes got a little wet for no reason at all. I just got hit by a sudden wave of feels for nothing.

It was like a culmination of sadness and total nothingness. 

I'm 24 and I have no life.

This is so depressing.


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The people in the office want to know why I don't have a boyfriend

People who know me for longer have probably accepted the fact that I will be the way I am forever


Me?

I don't know lol it's not that I'm strictly against having a partner, I just haven't really developed anything beyond crushes, cos the people I like don't like me, and the people who do, I just cannot bring myself to like lol 

I'm just destined for a life alone at this point hahaha 

It just concerns me cos the people around me are gonna slowly get married off and soon I will truly be alone, cos everybody would be even more busy with their personal family lives to entertain my regular rages lol no one will be there to even send sticker responses to my texts


Maybe I need a hobby? But what?

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Last month, the company realized the project they've been eyeing has been put on hold (agAIN) till the indefinite future (rumor has it, it'll be reopened April 2021, but the insiders I know are being transferred to other departments, so probably not....) 

and so, they've starting sending termination letters out. A whole bunch of people are gonna leave end November/ December... 

My boss told me I would've been let go end November, but he extended it to December.

Two weeks ago, he told me to send him my CV so he can try to land me in another project.

So far? No news yet - typical of this company I'm in lol they literally tell you nothing until the absolute last minute.

Which is why it's really frustrating if I stay - I'll have to endure their shitty management and planning for even longer.

The pros? They have the backup money to pay us our salaries

The cons? I probably won't learn much except subordination lol 

Trying other places now but nothing back yet.... I'm quite concerned.


Please pray for me

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I'm just gonna talk whatever here lol I ain't no writer, I'm not gonna have a cohesive train of thought.
Here are my feelings:
  1. I hate Disney live action remakes - and I'm not 100% prejudiced.
    Aside from the fact that this is an obvious business decision to rake in the bucks at the expense of our childhood nostalgia, and the fact that it is completely unnecessary, there's totally no magic?? It's like they almost completely rely on their CGI team and costuming to make the people look good, but with no character depth?? Some of the characters don't even look good!!

    Also, no offence to Queen B, but her voice totally does not suit Nala's lol she sounds 30 years older than Simba in the film.

    In the comments section of Mulan's trailer, most of the comments were either
    "I teared when he said I am blessed with two daughters" like....that is so not the point of Mulan. OK sure, it's cool she's actually female and yeah, girls can be tough too but the whole plot line of Mulan isn't 100% centered around feminism ok lol the huns are coming to wreck havoc and take over the throne!! She struggles fitting in cos OBviously she's not trained to fight!! Liu Yi Fei looks too girly and pretty to be a person who fooled an entire army into thinking she's actually a man!!!!!!!!!!! What's with Gong Li's character?????? No talking dragons but flying witches are ok??????????????????????? 

    Also?? The dialogue sucks?? You're already making China speak English, you might as well change the dialogue a bit to make it more relatable to your audience right. Maybe it's just my problem, I don't know. Maybe their voices just don't match the dialogue and the feeling is lost.

    Ugh.
  2. People are becoming wayy to sensitive
    Ok, perhaps our ancestors and parents weren't exactly comforting to us when we were kids. I was raised in an uptight household cos my Dad doesn't understand why 5 year olds cry Asians are just generally stricter than the parents we watch on TV. And my grandmother never really noticed me cos I'm not first born or a boy.
    Ok, I agree we should be a bit more empathetic against kids cos they have their problems too and we should be understanding. Ok, racism is bad. Ok, sexism is bad.
    But have we come to a point when people are becoming too sensitive?? It's like if you have said "this girl is bad at sports", keyboard Nazis will fly out and attack you "why don't you use this person instead?!? Why do you have to use the word girl?!?! DoN't yOU KnoW iTs dERogATorY!??!?"
    It's almost impossible to argue with anyone now on the Internet without it becoming a sexist/ racist slur. There's a fine line, and I want to find it.

I'm tired.
Bye
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I'm so accustomed to writing emails I almost started this post with "Dear all," lol

But hey! I just checked the last date of posting and it's been an entire year??? Now that we're stuck in a quarantine, it warrants hauling out my laptop and charger haha still didn't replace the battery cos I can't bear to split with 500 bucks for a new one so I'm running on DC.

Even though I spend 500 bucks on sneakers no problem now #millenialissues

Man, so much happened but it seems like nothing now. I'm still with the same company, still pondering my existence in this world every passing moment.


The end of 2019 was one of the darker moments - I found myself crying in front of the screen when work started based on the sheer thought of doing all this for the next 10??20?? years of my life. Like, is this really what I want to do with the rest of my life??

I blame this mini crisis for my increased caffeine consumption lol I spend about 200 bucks a month on iced coffee cos I can't start work happy without some indulging. Though I try to limit myself to one iced coffee maximum every other day haha

It's not like I hate anybody I work with (although truthfully sometimes they drive me up the wall with their inconsistencies and lack of work ethic);

I think mainly, I'm just really bored with what I'm doing.


I'm not really making a huge difference, nor am I actually growing anymore. Now, I'm just here to finish the job lol and I've always had an issue with finishing anything.

When I first joined this job, I fluctuated between "yeah! I'm gonna finish this project and it's gonna look great on my portfolio! I'm gonna go places!!" and "oh my god what am I doing with my youth"


And okay, in one of my darkest moments of working with the company, I suddenly got the opportunity to go to the head office in Seoul and it was a pretty cool experience. But it makes one question - what next? This is as good as the company is gonna offer me; I have no future in this company cos a) I'm not Korean, b) I don't speak Korean, and c) I'm not really obedient 100% of the time and I don't think I can survive in their culture lol it's so limiting! I want to speak my mind! I want to have opinions!

And okay, so you're gonna tell me to find a new job already and put myself out of this misery.

But truthfully? I'm working for the cash now. As much as we complain about the company, it's not like they treat us like shit lol how many places can match your salary, guarantee a bonus and increment, and feed you so much shit every few months (literally, there's a staff welfare budget lol we get random Haagen Dazs or imported fruit)??? And the people I work with (ok, just a small percentage haha) know their shit and I get to learn new stuff.

But is it time to move on? Broaden my horizons?

Brad Leone - my main crush from the BA test kitchen
I've been watching Bon Appetit videos a lot (even before this quarantine) and like, this is what I envision my life to be! Brainstorming and creating with people like me but not like me (generally, architects tend to be....really pretentious....or I just lack the ~sense~ idk)

At the same time... I can barely mince garlic hahahahahahahaha
And I also hate so many food groups........ I'll probably be a really shit chef on the basis that I dislike so many things and for the things that I like, I'm really particular with how I like them

So really, what is my calling?? I'm not particularly good at anything? I can't finish anything I start cos I get distracted lol I don't know what these articles about Tauruses are on when they say we're finishers cos I generally don't finish anything I start lol except for the ones that can be finished in one day.

Case in point, I'm bored of writing lol

Bye!
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idk if I could ever quit Instagram or Twitter, but I don't think it's all that important seeing how I dont have damn time to do anything on those platforms anyway lol. Or the Internet connection cos idk why admin pulled out the router at my corner of the office so we all have to play tug of war with the other departments T___T Mr M pls consider reinstalling the router T___T

but hey!
I'm back!
I got a job! It's my third month here and I'm working with Korean managers!
There's also only three other Chinese in the office!
The others are all Malay and like. A couple of Indians!
I feel like this is how the world compensates all the Chinese I'd been surrounded by in uni for the past four years hahaha time to brush up on my already cripplingly bad Malay
Seriously I'm so hopeless with Malay hahaha I need like 2 minutes to process what they're telling me but when I finally get it they've already explained it over in English hahaha

I won't go into detail about my work experience (so far)
I can only say that maybe I'm being too fussy and I complain too much about other people's mistakes, when I myself make a ton as well.
It's not really about the mistakes only either, it's the fact that nobody cares despite of it lol. I know y'all are only here to get the name on your resume or just looking for a salary but like, can you have some sort of commitment or passion in what you're doing?!?! Otherwise what is the damn point of working there?? Please try to be proud of your work, no matter what you're doing.


What is the point of waking up so early every day if you're not proud of what you're doing!?
I am so sick of some people's attitudes of being too comfortable and being okay with their work quality. Or maybe it's cos I have Archi background and we're taught that your work will never be perfect and there will always be room for improvement; subsequently we have higher standards for ourselves and have simultaneously horrible self esteems but egos the size of Mars.

But seriously people!
Please!
DO YOUR WORK PROPERLY. Yes, it won't be perfect but it doesn't mean you can feel content about the state of it!
Please have some humility and feel some shame!

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I'm taking weekend classes!
It's bridal makeup & hair!
The class itself is quite fun but the idea of an hour's commute is seriously daunting.
Especially considering my makeup bag is 5kg and I have another tote of hair stuff and everything is so heavy.
My shoulders, biceps and back are feeling very strong recently hahaha the rest of my body I can't be proud of hahahahahha I'M LAZY
I'm not Genie who can go work out and still feel human
I mean. I enjoy the afterburn of a good workout and I enjoy it most of the time, but getting started and back on track is so difficult hahaha
ugh idk la

My arms are tired from typing now so bye
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I HAVE NOT AND AM NOT A PSYCHOLOGY STUDENT NOR AM I A TRAINED PSYCHOLOGIST. All I have relating to this matter is being a very confused bystander. DON'T COME @ ME IT'S JUST MY OPINION

In light of Jonghyun and Chester's recent suicides, depression has been really getting a limelight for being a very serious mental disorder and how it drives people into killing themselves to alleviate themselves from the pain. And OK I understand this. In a way to say that I understand the words you are saying but I don't really understand the meaning behind it. I'm speaking from a standpoint of somebody who probably has a very low EQ.

It's hard to sympathize with the depressed for me simply because I don't understand the kind of pain they're apparently in. It's probably because I've seen way too many over dramatic people (am I allowed to say this? Or is it politically incorrect like 10000000 other things in 2017) on Facebook chronicling how they have no friends, or nobody loves them, or they're soo(OOOOOOOO) lonely. And these same people claim to be depressed themselves.

THIS IS WHERE I BECOME EXTREMELY CONFUSED AND CONSEQUENTLY I AM ALSO VERY CAUTIOUS ABOUT WHAT I AM GOING TO SAY. But I'm gonna say it anyway cos it's my blog here.

What's depression? What and where is the line between depression and just feeling sad? Do people know how to distinguish between the two? Are the people who claim to be depressed REALLY depressed, or are they just ignorant and over-dramatizing their problems?

Some people may tell me that you should sympathize with people who are sad anyway, but I find it difficult to do that when most people's problems are just so....solvable?? If it's not relationship problems, it's familial conflicts or like, you got yelled at by your boss or something. I may tell you "awhh, don't feel sad" (which I do very very sparingly, and only when I truly do not think you can handle what I really want to tell you), BUT I REALLY JUST WANT TO TELL YOU TO GET OVER IT.

I understand most people when they rant or tell you about their problems, they're really just looking for a comforting shoulder to cry on. But I'm not the freaking fairy godmother, I can't bippity boppity boo your problems away! You may feel better for like 10 minutes, BUT THE PROBLEM IS STILL THERE YOU HAVE TO FACE IT ANYWAY

I digress from the point of my blog post.
Anyway, a lot of people who have these conflicts in their lives may also have depression. How am I, a curious but very very ignorant bystander, supposed to deal with it? I don't want to be the person who indirectly drives you to your grave!

People often focus on the person who committed suicide (justifiably so, as they're not around anymore to feel unsorry for) but there's not enough sympathy on the people who know of the problem, but couldn't do anything to stop it.

I mean, in Nine's post about Jonghyun, he alleged that they were aware of his problem. They tried to talk him out of it and it only worked to delay the final event. How would they feel? How is a person who doesn't know anything about depression, has never been depressed (and also have a very low EQ) supposed to deal with their loved ones being depressed (or allegedly so)? We're in the mercy of your mood and medication, and the only thing we can do is walk on eggshells around you or like, idk, make a cup of hot chocolate for you (does it even help???? For the depressed I mean.) or even tell you we love you every day and give positive encouragement. How are these people supposed to feel when the person they love tries to kill themselves and they've done everything they can to help and stop it from happening?

I hesitantly jump on the bandwagon and feel sorry for the deceased just so people won't come up my ass with "DEPRESSION IS SERIOUS" or "MENTAL DISORDERS KILL"

I KNOW, OKAY, I KNOW. I'm not saying that I'm disregarding mental disorders entirely, but how does one truly identify whether or not somebody is truly depressed? I'm not the type to feel sympathy for petty problems (because it does nothing but spoil people into becoming even more dramatic over small issues because nobody ever told them that it doesn't really matter), how do I know when to be serious about it?

I've read and watched videos about depression and the experiences of somebody who's recovering from depression. It's (apparently) a feeling of uselessness and loneliness, and the world wouldn't suffer without you existence; it's something you can't easily get rid of. And okay, I understand this feeling of helplessness, but what I don't understand is how some people can "get out of it" and some people can't.

Is it the problem with the psychiatrist you're seeing? Is it the environment you're in? Or are you really just the only problem?

Maybe I need to feel more empathy for people instead of using my (again, alleged) low EQ as an excuse for being an asshole. And maybe people who feel sad and depressed need to know, that as harsh as it may sound, the only way to "get out of it" is to get over yourself.

Okay, I know depression cannot be controlled easily (I am absolutely not saying it can't be controlled at all, because the same people who even coin the term depression also believe that it is a treatable disorder, and therefore it means there is a cure. And since it's a mental disorder, it means the only way to cure it is to change the way you think, either consciously or subconsciously) and it comes very suddenly no matter what you do. But I do not think I can forgive somebody who lets the darkness consume them. I can feel sorry that it happened, I can feel sad that you have passed on. but I can absolutely not forgive you for letting it overcome you.

When you're feeling sad or depressed, you tend to only tune into the things you want to hear. But sometimes, the things you want to hear are not the things you need to hear. That's my two cents on the matter.
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To the person I have wronged so so so so so many years ago, I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.

I actually quite like listening to you talk, because you are a person of substance.

I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
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I've blogged so little this year haha have been really busy with final year projects and shit like that AND NOW I'M THREE MONTHS (unless I fail this semester...in which case I will cry) AWAY FROM GRADUATING AND GETTING MY DEGREE AND HAVING TO HAVE TO EARN MY OWN INCOME COS I WON'T BE GETTING A CUSHY POCKET ALLOWANCE ANYMORE AND I'M SO SO SO BROKE RIGHT NOW BUT I DON'T WANT TO JUST GET ANY OLD JOB YOU KNOW I WANT THIS TO COUNT

Which brings me to the topic of whenever lecturers tell you to not take the criticism to heart and that they're just talking about your project not you as a designer. Which doesn't make sense to me because don't people pour a part of their identities into their projects? How can I not feel offended or hurt when you comment on my project and give bad feedback? In every project I invest myself into there's a piece of my soul there, of course I'm gonna feel wounded 😭


I'm still improving in terms of accepting criticism but my stomach still burns fire whenever I receive bad feedback hahaha I can't help it. It's a mix of embarrassment, rage and waves of sadness T__T thinking about it makes me sad again hahahaha I MEAN IT'S PART OF THE JOB TO GET THIS KIND OF NEGATIVE ENERGY AND IT'S ABOUT HOW YOU RISE UP AGAIN BLABLABLA


In other news, I'm currently on the look out for a good interior design job or internship so I can finally invest in something I'm interested in, and see for myself if it's right for me, before it's too late and I get too old and what once was "fresh ideas" become "dated" and "backwards".

Gotta live on the fast lane right

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My baes (for now, will never know what may happen in the future cos I'm a horrible fan and I'm incredibly disloyal hahaha look what happened to my ~*undying love*~ for exo and kai) BTS won Artist of the Year at MAMA2017! 

BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY, they won best MV with Spring Day!!! WHICH WAS THE HIGHLIGHT OF THE NIGHT FOR ME BECAUSE THAT MUSIC VIDEO WAS A WORK OF ART BY LUMPENS.


Lumpens deserve the award cos they've been directing all of BTS's MVs since Danger era (except for MIC DROP) and I've so far loved all of them for the colour grading and the camerawork! Spring Day is truly my favourite so far, for the lovely pink/blue/moody aesthetic which fit the narrative and the camerawork too that really captured the essence of the message they're trying to portray.


Also they totally killed it with the MIC DROP performance! Body rolls for daayyyzzzz I could totally see them dying from all those dance breaks, especially JK lol he looked like he was going to die from the exertion



T__T babies worked hard.

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I've also discovered a gem at MAMA this year: HYUKOH! They're under HIGHGRND as well (IT JUST FIGURES. Tablo is a god) 


So far, Gondry is my fav. 

IT'S JUST SO CHILL??? His voice can be the backdrop to all of my chill relax days
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from the beginning of the semester until now, it's just been endless planning for this joint studio workshop with students from Tunghai University. Two entire months spent being clueless because the main head lecturer took off to Taiwan to continue her studies. Two entire months spent somehow having more and more things to do. 

  1. My group is pretty cool
  2. Most of the Taiwanese students are low-key savage, and are very funny to be around with
  3. Thank goodness for the #zerofare Grabcar promo code or we would've spent at least 50 bucks travelling around Melaka
  4. I hope we didn't overfeed them hahaha #team10kg
  5. Lecturers in charge seriously need to go for planning courses or something because they all like to follow up on jobs that weren't previously mentioned (aka, last minute work every week)
  6. Always think thrice before joining any committee of any sort
  7. I wasn't even in the committee, because all I literally did was design the banner and somehow it exploded into various graphic jobs?? I don't mind the graphic part, it's the last minute-ness of it all that really irks me. Because I could produce a better job if people just told me exactly how things should be in the beginning lol
  8. Small eyes have never been so appealing until you're surrounded by them HAHAHAHA 
  9. I'm so relieved the workshop has ended!
  10. But can't they stay longer hahahahaha
  11. When my lecturer told us that we could all gather and standardize our slideshow formats, I died a little inside. Because what for!??!?! WHAT FOR!??!?! 
  12. We standardized our format for literature review because they told us we may print it for the Taiwanese students to see. The keyword here is may because it didn't happen in the end BECAUSE THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO WILL DO THESE THINGS VOLUNTARILY ARE ALREADY UP TO THEIR THROAT WITH THE AMOUNT OF PLANNING THE LECTURERS THROW AT US LAST MINUTE!!!
  13. I don't think anybody has the time to do pointless work like this. It truly is rather pointless. #nobodygottimeforthat

bye friends!
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This drama is just so /cries 

to update me in the future, when I want to have a cringe marathon, here's what's been going on since sem started:


1. Site visit for measured drawing, Melaka

Points to remember in the future if I will ever be cursed with the chance to go for measured drawing again:
- SPACING BETWEEN WINDOWS EZHEN REMEMBER SPACING BETWEEN WINDOWS
- TAKE ALL PHOTOS OF THE CEILING TOO FOR THE BEAMS THE BEAMS
- VIDDDEEEEOOOOSSSSS I cannot stress this enough because sometimes photo angles go   weird and you can't see what you want to see.

Anyway, we went for the Malaysia Youth Museum, situated in Dutch Square. Kinda ironic to have a youth museum if you ask me, considering the building is probably the most aesthetically boring within the perimeters of the area. They probably only put it there cos the place is a tourist hot-spot.

It would be weird if they put it in some obscure place like oh, I don't know, A CEMETARY. Will talk more about this later.




2. Chinese New Year - the year of which I celebrated in the toilet
So yeah guess who got indigestion on the first flipping day of CNY?? Just figures. 
On the bright side, I finally finished this damn children's book! I've been reading it for three years and have never finished it. I always have to start over too cos I don't remember where I left it at. 
The ending was just so-so
so la-la, as my German tutor may say.


3. Measured drawing- continued

So since we had (have?? because I don't see this trend coming to an end anytime soon) a pretty shitty schedule, our first project intercepts with CNY, so we really only had six days to finish this project. On paper it says one month, but the first week was pure planning for the upcoming Melaka trip with the Taiwanese students, and the second week was pure planning with the authorities for this project and like, four hours spent on site before we go for CNY break. 
So yeah, we finished this model spanning 2A0s (that's around 1m x 0.5m) in five days. 
Thank goodness we opted for laser cutting the smaller details or we would never have made it lol. 




our baby roof <3 i="">






I already can't wait for a break.

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I'm reading a book called Dear Enemy by Jean Webster and the protagonist is so relate-able!

"-and also, no matter what the doctor wants, so positive and dictatorial is his manner that just out of self respect one must take the other side. When he states that the world is round, I instantly assert it to be triangular"

I can relate to this so well because my brother is exactly like the doctor, with his condescending airs and his stubborn nature. His stupid know-it-all attitude that makes it so difficult to agree with his words.

"I have just been holding an interview with a woman who wants to take a baby home to surprise her husband. I had a hard time convincing her that, since he is to support the child, it might be a delicate attention to consult him about its adoption. She argued stubbornly that it was none of his business, seeing that the onerous work of washing and dressing and training would fall upon her. I am really beginning to feel sorry for men. Some of them seem to have very few rights."

idk maybe it's not as funny to you as it is to me. But I like the tone of this book, and she's really witty and has a way with words that just pulls at my funny bone.

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In other news, I'm so obsessed with the Chinese singing competition show! A lot of them are really good singers, and I'll continue watching on even though some of my favourites were disqualified (unjustly so!!) 


Currently, I'm obsessed with this one.



but this one makes me cry every time he sings T___T it's so touching, straight through my feelss
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Having friends from different groups, with different interests and different personalities, and with each you interact a little differently to get along
Ever want to stop shaping yourself to fit into someone's hole?
Ever felt like you don't really belong, and there won't be one single person who can understand all sides of you?
It's like having a split personality, and you've pulled apart too long to remember who you used to be and what you used to really like
But everybody needs somebody, and if no one likes you, who's your somebody? So sometimes trying to fit in isn't as bad as psychologist wannabes want you to believe

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  1. Why do some clinics have doors, and others don't? Is it to keep the air conditioning in? Or because door knobs harbor so much germs? Or because some clinics can't afford doors? Or to look more welcoming? Someone answer, please.


  2. Isn't this lovely? It's one of the very very few MVs where they all have normal hairstyles :')
    Petition to make GD go back to this hairstyle!
  3. Why is my entire being so asymmetrical (also, why can I never spell asymmetrical correctly?? WHEN WILL I STOP SPELLING IT ASSYMETRICAL) ?
    From my hair to my toes, nothing's balanced wtf not even the curve of my legs are the same! MY HAIR IS HALF CURLY HALF STRAIGHT, HALF THIN HALF COARSE. ONE SIDE OF MY JAW IS MORE CURVED THAN THE OTHER. ONE BUTT SAGS MORE THAN THE OTHER AND THE LIST GOES ON.
    Have I really been living, leaning on one side more than the other? IS THAT WHY.
  4. I have a flu going on I can't think at the moment this is too much effort
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  1. I'm 20 ;__;

  2. It doesn't feel any different, except I have to get used to telling people I'm 20 now
  3. Ugh ugh ugh ugh 
  4. I don't want to grow up I don't want to get a job I don't want to leave this comfortable lifestyle to one that's a constant battle between taxes and horrible bosses
  5. I don't want to stop taking naps in the afternoon 
  6. but I can't cos semester 2 starts in two weeks
  7. TWO WEEKS.
  8. Next sem's site is in Cameron Highlands whoop whoop
  9. STRAWBERRIES
  10. I'm still young at heart.
  11. Ugh ugh ugh ugh
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To the people who comment on the way I look:


To the people who tell me I should do this and that because ~it'll be fun~:


I'll tell you what you should do, how about y'all fuck off and dictate your own life and stop worrying about mine. 


I can motherfucking wear a pair of shoes if I like it and you all can fuck off about it
You can stop telling me that I grew a pimple or my lips are chapped because surprise surprise I own mirrors I already know


It's like as if you're all perfect!???!?!?!?


DO YOU HEAR ME TELL YOU YOU LOOK LIKE SHIT TODAY BECAUSE YOU DO


BUT I DON'T BECAUSE IT'S MOTHERFUCKING RUDE


AND MAYBE YOU JUST DIDN'T GET ENOUGH SLEEP


DO YOU HEAR ME TELL YOU YOU'RE FAT AND YOU SHOULD LOSE SOME WEIGHT


NO BECAUSE THAT'S MOTHERFUCKING RUDE


DO YOU HEAR ME TELL YOU YOUR HAIR LOOKS GREASY AF AND GO AWAY YOU STINK AND YOU'RE DIRTY!?


NO BECAUSE THAT'S MOTHERFUCKING RUDE.


so take a hint you little cunts and stop telling me how I should look and how I should act because guess what


ITS MY MOTHERFUCKING LIFE.
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1. Yesterday was my last presentation for Studio 3

2. The day before I spent half the day sprinting between my drafting table, my laptop and the printing shop to print my presentation board before it closes

3. I managed to finish composing my board within two hours with the lovely help and input of my lovely tutor and lovely friends (lovely!)

4. My double A0 sized board costed me RM10. I printed two and ended up only using one because
I spent the entire night rendering one board



6. Meaning, I spent approximately 7-8 hours colouring a stupid lake and grass and that pink-purple thing (which got many, many, many weird looks and comments like "why pink" probably because architects don't do any colour that isn't a neutral)

7. I forgot to draw my section line but no one noticed so that's okay

8. I was the last presenter so I had to sit through four presentations before mine in a complete flurry of nerves and omgomgomgomg

9. They liked it so 

7. A scan for one A0 board costs twice as much for my entire board where is the logic in that

8. KO-ed for ten hours once I got home

9. Woke up to shower and have a snack and KO-ed for another 8 hours

10. I appreciate all the people who've helped me and talked me out of my nerves in the making of this model and gave me tons of useful input of which 80% I've ignored because I just needed someone to rant to 

11. Fun fact: I spent 12 hours trying to decide the best place to put my entrance

12. I'm not very happy with my roof because it caused a million of other problems for me, true to the saying "form follows panic"

13. I seem to be the only one who found "form follows panic" totally funny and relate-able, which makes me question my own sense of humor in relation to everyone else's. 

14. Next semester in Studio 4 we will get my old drawing lecturer (yes!! and nooooo!!) and another lecturer who looks very hamsap, is very over-opinionated and doesn't button up his shirt properly. Ugh. 
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I write this before I begin (ugh) my report assignments (why are there so many?!?)

I've been the de facto group editor ever since group report assignments existed. I'm only ever not the group editor when (a) there's someone better and more of a control freak than I thank god, or (b) I lack the knowledge and expertise on said area.

People seem to think I actually enjoy editing??? I DON'T. I HATE IT. I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT. But I can't not be editor because I've been let down one too many times, by people who simply are too lazy and can't be bothered to read everything and just copy paste everything into one document. I HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT.


I especially hate to edit when I have a shit-ton of things to do 
I especially hate to edit when there are people in my group who aren't good in English, and so their reports will either be (a) a perfectly constructed sentence they obviously copied from somewhere amidst a jumble of horribly written broken English, or (b) a jumble of horribly cut-and-paste sentences. 
Disclaimer: I hate editing, but it doesn't make me hate the people. It just makes me very angry with them for a few days BECAUSE GDI IT'S NOT YOUR FIRST TIME WRITING REPORTS RIGHT. I'M SURE YOU'VE WRITTEN ESSAYS BEFORE. MY PRIMARY SCHOOL ESSAYS ARE MORE WELL-WRITTEN THAN THE SHIT YOU GIVE ME. 


I mean, I understand that not everybody was brought up in an English speaking environment, but that doesn't mean you're excused from sucking with both speaking and writing!!! CHINESE AND MALAY MAY NOT BE MY STRONGEST SUITS BUT OH MY GOD I CAN STILL WRITE SENTENCES THAT MAKE SENSE. 

For the purpose of ranting, I present to you all the pros and cons of being the group editor. Cons comes first, naturally.

CONS OF BEING GROUP EDITOR:
  1. People seem to forget that you too, have a lot of other assignments to attend to. So sometimes you get disgusting excuses from them that they were too busy doing some other assignment. Bitch, like I'm so free right
    It's the same thing with being the person who writes the notes on the board when the teacher is absent/lazy and you have to submit said notes on the same day as well. And no one remembers that you basically wasted half the period writing for other people. 
  2. Some people are nocturnal and only start to work in the late evenings, and tend to send you their parts at 4 fucking am, even after you specifically asked for it before 12am 
  3. People think your brain functions 100% 24/7, and they just have to push a laptop to your face and you'll make wonders happen.
  4. When you're not the group editor, and you see the final report someone else has compiled..................................... god.
  5. Some people only make sense in their mind, and only 10% of their parts make sense to you. So you spend more time deciphering what the fuck they mean.
  6. Attitude problems. God. People think you have all the time in the world, or editing takes 10 minutes only (these are the people who only copy paste everything into one file with confidence that you've done well, just because).  So when you send the file back, they send you their same horrible part with an attitude attached.

  7. When citing references is compulsary, and some ass-wipes can't be bothered to find out how to cite properly. And they're also ~too lazy~ to redo when you send it back. You fucking cunts.
  8. PEOPLE WHO DON'T READ THE FUCKING ASSIGNMENT BRIEF AND SEND YOU SOMETHING OFF-TOPIC. READ. THE. FUCKING. BRIEF. PLEASE. 
PROS OF BEING GROUP EDITOR
  1. When an individual assignment comes rolling by, your plagiarism percentage stays low from all the practice paraphrasing. 
As you can see, I'm not a very nice person when I have to edit reports. I become a very angry beast so please don't talk to me. 
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